BardDad Wisdom #13: Be Brave, Even if you’re not, pretend to be. They Won’t Be Able to Tell the Difference.

Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
Harness your inner actor and just be brave. Even if you’re shaking in your boots, put on a show! After all, life’s a stage and courage is the greatest performance. Besides, who’s to know you’re improvising? #BardDadWisdom #FakeItTilYouMakeIt

The Bard Dad

The Art of Bravery: A Game of Pretense Where Everyone Wins

Greetings, my lovely sons, (and those who are reading this)! Today, let’s talk about bravery, a commodity highly coveted yet often misunderstood. You’ve heard it all before – “Be brave,” they say, “or at least pretend to be.” It sounds simple, doesn’t it? It is, and it isn’t, but that’s the beauty of it.

  1. Mastering the Performance: First things first, let’s get one thing straight – being brave doesn’t mean you are fearless. It means facing those fears and walking through them anyway. And when you can’t muster the courage, what do you do? You pretend! Trust me, half of the bravest people you see are just really good actors.
  2. Fake It Till You Make It: It might sound cliché, but there is wisdom in the old saying, “Fake it till you make it.” When you pretend to be brave, you send a powerful message to your brain. It’s a survival trick as old as time itself. Your brain can’t tell the difference between reality and pretense. So, when you act brave, your brain goes, “Alright, we’re being brave now, cool!” and floods your system with a rush of confidence-boosting chemicals.
  3. The Ripple Effect of Pretense: The beautiful thing about pretending to be brave is that, after a while, you’re not pretending anymore. The bravery seeps into your soul, melding with your identity until one day, you wake up and realize you’re not acting anymore – you ARE brave. And that’s when the magic happens.
  4. The Audiences and Your Curtain Call: Here’s the kicker – no one else can tell the difference. Your boss, your friends, your loved ones – they’re all just seeing a brave soul navigating their way through life. And what do people do when they see someone else being brave? They get inspired. They think, “If they can do it, so can I.” And so, your act of bravery becomes a beacon of hope for others.
  5. Bravery – The Ultimate Improv: Bravery, then, becomes the ultimate improv performance. But unlike regular improv, there are no losers in this performance. It’s a game where everyone wins – you, your brain, and every person who is inspired by your courage.

So go out there, don your bravest smile, and stride confidently into the world. Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference. And who knows? In the end, you might just find that you’ve become the brave soul you’ve always pretended to be.

Just a little boy from Ireland, who became a staunch American while raising three boys, creating three companies, and being married for 30 years